Heal your Relationships Once and For All

With Your Own Private Conscious Uncoupling Relationship Coach


Heal your Relationships Once and For All

With Your Own Private Conscious Uncoupling Relationship Coach

are you in a painful breakup or divorce?

Or still suffering with unresolved grief from a past breakup?

are you in a painful breakup or divorce?

Or still suffering with unresolved grief from a past breakup?

Heartache. Loneliness. Anger. Resentment. Confusion. Losing sleep. Eating poorly. Finding it hard or impossible to focus on tasks. Children upset or acting out. ... Do any of these sound familiar? 

"Emotional trauma is the root cause of almost all chronic illness."

~ Dr. Raphael Kellman, MD.

Social isolation can lead to disease and a shorter life span.  Individuals who are socially isolated have weaker immune systems, increased inflammation, and greater risk of viral infection and other disease.  Social isolation can result in altered genetic expression in our brain cells, lymph nodes, breast tissue, ovaries and prostate.  

Why live with any of this when there is a better way?

The groundbreaking Conscious Uncoupling coaching program, created by marriage and family therapist Katherine Woodward Thomas, will lead you from heartache to wholeness in 5 simple and highly transformative steps.

Based on Katherine's New York Times Bestseller, Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After, How to Break Up in a Whole New Way, this program will help you find relief from breakup pain, reclaim your personal power, and create your "happily even after" life.  This celebrated method, made famous by a beautiful actress and her talented musician former husband, has already helped thousands transform their sorrow into strength and their pain into newfound power.

In Just 6 Sessions

  • consciously and honorably uncouple from your partner
  • experience a reprieve from breakup trauma and overwhelming heart pain
  • rediscover your worthiness to love and be loved
  • be free from resentment 
  • evolve beyond habitual disappointing patterns in love
  • awaken your power to create happier and healthier patterns in love moving forward

The 5 Steps

Step One

Find Emotional Freedom

Step Two

Reclaim Your Power and Your Life

Step Three

Break the Pattern, Heal Your Heart

Step Four

Become a Love Alchemist

Step Five

Create Your Happily Even After Life

My Emergence Client Testimonial by Raina Harris:

I am a skeptic. I am also fairly self-aware. I have worked with really good therapists in the past (and the present) who have helped me in many ways. I didn’t believe in “light bulb” moments; I thought that only happened in books and movies. I went into this program simply thinking I would at least learn something new about myself. I had only had a few relationships, and they all ended in the same drawn-out, exhausting, heartbroken way. I wanted to break the pattern, so I gave this a chance. Through this program and the tender yet firm guidance of River, I have changed my life. Let me say that again - I have changed my life. It’s no joke, and I’m not exaggerating. Go through this program with an open mind, and change your own life. I can’t explain exactly why this program is different, but it is, and it is worth it.

why not just go to therapy?

why not just go to therapy?

Coaching can be far superior to psychotherapy. 

Coaching is partnering with you in a thought ­provoking way and creative process that inspires you to maximize your personal and professional potential. A coach believes you are naturally creative and resourceful. A coach provides support to enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that you already have. (  Coaching has as its goal the flourishing and thriving of your full potential.

Psychotherapy is oriented toward pathology, psychological disorders and trauma, while coaching focuses on achievement and the fulfillment of goals. Psychotherapy deals more with dysfunction, and emotional and behavioral problems, focuses more on the past or disruptive problems and has as its goal the objective of bringing you to normal functioning.  Coaching is for functioning people who want to move toward their highest potential. (written by Katherine Woodward Thomas, MA, MFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist for 30 years. ) 

Some differences between coaching and psychotherapy: 

(Chart adapted from Katherine Woodward Thomas' chart; adapted from Auerbach, 2000, and Gilligan 2005.) 

why not just go to court?

why not just go to court?

After witnessing serious flaws in the family court system for over 20 years, River knows family court is the worst place you could go to solve relationship issues.

Attorneys are trained to debate. Most law schools never train attorneys on problem solving. Often the first question your family law attorney will ask is “what’s wrong with your spouse/co­parent?” immediately focusing on the negatives.
Judges are trained to listen to evidence that meets strict ­admissibility standards (which means there is always a lot they never know) from two sides who are in an insanely expensive show­down, trying to show the worst sides of one another in a cut­throat, winner ­takes ­all, style competition.

At the end of a court process, a few financial issues and kid ­schedule issues may be “ordered” for your family but what about all the other issues? Totally unresolved!  

Is the court system equipped to help your family find a peaceful transition?  Not even close. There is a better way.  After you complete the Conscious Uncoupling process, you will be ready to resolve your issues outside the court system, hiring an attorney to simply draw up your agreements and have them signed by a court if necessary.

about river

about river


Founder of My Emergence:

River believes that our intimate relationships provide us with an opportunity to connect more deeply with ourselves, with others, and with life itself. Never before have we been free to connect with others in such creative ways.

River’s interest in healing and relationships began in her late thirties when her own closest relationships seemed to fall apart all at once. This spurred an exploration into healing and authentic connection with others. 

As a family law attorney and specialist in human sexuality, River is a unique relationship coach. 

She holds a professional certification as a Conscious Uncoupling Coach, personally trained and mentored by creator Katherine Woodward Thomas, MA, MFT. She has owned her own family law office next to the courthouse in Austin for over 20 years, specializing in high conflict divorce and custody cases. She worked for many years as a political activist, ending up as a finalist for the position of the Austin Police Monitor. And for years she has maintained an active practice as a professionally trained sex and intimacy coach.

River is delighted to offer superior options to individuals who would like to heal, would like to reduce the financial and emotional damage, and would like their relationship transition to result in a better life for everyone involved. 


Coaching Details

Coaching Details


Individuals of any gender or orientation who are ready to heal their relationships forever.  Alternative or traditional relationships.  Parents or non-parents.  Sexual concerns welcome.  Those seeking an alternative to an expensive court battle.

how it works

Each session lasts 90 minutes.  We use the Conscious Uncoupling book as our work book, and you will have homework assignments between each session.  With River as your personal guide through this revolutionary process, you will transform your life and be ready to love bigger and better than ever before.


$1500 for all 6 sessions if paid in a single payment in advance of your first session.  $400/session if paid individually.  After successful graduation from the 6-session process, follow-up integration sessions in the future are $250 each.  Sessions must be used within one year of purchase or they will expire.  


In-person sessions provided in a private downtown Austin, Texas, office with easy parking.  Worldwide service is provided effectively by telephone or video.  Details provided upon scheduling.

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Every time you choose love over fear.

Every time you choose to be generative rather than reactionary.

Every time you listen, see, and hear your partner rather than assume you know what they are about to say.

You are a relationship revolutionary.


Welcome to the relationship revolution.